Learning to Create Destiny by Expressing Your Will (3/5)

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(Continued from last time)

★Various examples of when consideration is and isn’t needed

Consideration is needed when the ideal you think of as “I want to do this” or “It would be good if it were like this” would clearly bring disharmony to yourself and others.

To give an extreme example, it’s when the wish comes from selfish thoughts like, “My parents nag me and they’re annoying, so I want them gone.”

That’s obviously something that must not be done, and you can see that it’s a situation where consideration is needed.

And consideration isn’t needed, for example, when you want to realize an ideal you picture for yourself, like “I want to go to that school (place) and study to make my dream come true.”

When you have a hope like that, the thoughts that come to mind, “If I say or do this, my parents might be sad,” “They might oppose it,” “Then maybe I should listen to my parents and seal away my dream”… those are exactly the needless considerations.

Seen objectively, if you look deeply at what’s really behind parents’ sadness or opposition in such cases, it’s often mixed with the parents’ own anxiety or ego.

In such cases, even if the parents’ sadness or opposition comes “out of love for their child,” as a result it can end up nipping the buds of the child’s dream.

So in such cases, it’s fine for the child to step onto the path toward realizing their own dream, even if it means shaking off the parents’ opposition and the spell of various emotional thoughts.

But always on their own responsibility.

It’s a different story if they blame others as soon as something goes wrong, or if they’re thinking, “I’ll make my dream come true while taking it easy myself,” or if they intend to rely on their parents for absolutely everything.

And at such a time, from the parents’ standpoint, with the proviso “if the child’s dream is truly based on an independent spirit,” if they really care about their child’s future, then however much hardship they may see ahead, believing in the potential of life within that child and seeing them off and watching over them can be said to be the true form of love as it should be.

To give a completely different example: when a company employee comes up with a project and wants to make it happen, in most cases they write a proposal, go through various procedures within the company, and only then does the project get moving, right?

For most people, the energy and effort needed for that first process is no small thing, so while picturing ideals like “we should do this, we should do that,” they smolder without putting them into action. But among them, people with just a little more courage try to take action.

At that point, if they always gave way to their boss’s rejections or their colleagues’ opposition, they couldn’t move things forward, could they?

In cases like that too, there are times when consideration for those around you is needed and times when it isn’t.

Consideration is needed when the original motive for proposing the project comes from ego, like “I want to improve my own position,” or “As long as our company does well, I don’t care about anyone else.”

On the other hand, consideration for those around you isn’t needed when you can believe the project will truly be useful to the company and to society, and you have the conviction to persuade those around you that it will serve the world and people and also benefit the company you belong to.

At such times, it’s good to show concretely the grounds for that ideal and push forward toward making the project a success, undaunted by anyone’s opposition or interference. (To be continued)