How Adults Should Be with Children

★What is a “good child”?

Today let’s raise the dimension of the idea of a “good child,” as it’s used about children, and at the same time talk about something that can prime the pump for your own evolution of consciousness.

When people meet and there is a child present, whether or not it’s their own, there are moments when they praise children with words like, “Oh, what a good child, how clever…,” right?

At such times, first find out what the adult who said those words means by a “good child.”

In most cases, don’t they mean a child who fits the image of “an obedient child who listens well to adults” or “a child who behaves in ways convenient for adults”?

Now, think about this very carefully.

Then do you think a child who behaves in ways inconvenient for adults isn’t a good child?

For example, what about a child who can’t sit still on the train?

Would you decide, “That’s obviously a bad child”?

From the children’s point of view, there is no more troublesome label than the image adults have of a “good child.”

They are just expressing their life freely, and there is no ill will in it at all.

Even if a child is bullying a friend, they are only innocently imitating what their parents, the adults around them, or characters on television do.

To give concrete examples: a mother who fills her child’s ears with complaints about her husband behind his back, or a father who neglects his family and throws himself into socializing outside.

It’s no exaggeration to say that children express disharmonious thoughts, words, and deeds as a completely natural chemical reaction to the words and actions of such adults, who have strayed from the harmony that ought to be.

The ones who should look back and reflect are the parents and the adults of the world, not the children themselves.

When adults have reflected on themselves first, honestly told the children about their reflection, and only then said, “Let’s stop troubling our friends. I’ll stop doing such-and-such too, so let’s stop together,” children will often understand surprisingly readily.

If they don’t understand after one try, it means your reflection on yourself wasn’t enough, so take a careful fresh look at yourself and face the child again, and yet again.

But parents and the adults around children tend to put themselves off until later and try one-sidedly to suppress children and make them obey.

★If you wish for children’s happiness

The evolution of consciousness isn’t anything special.

It’s good to begin by standing on your past reflection on your small everyday words and actions, and expressing divine thoughts, words, and deeds anew in your own mind and body.

Children watch the vibrations adults send out far more calmly than adults think.

Even a newborn baby is only unable to convey its thoughts because it can’t handle its body well yet. It understands the thoughts, words, and deeds of adults, senses them quietly, and absorbs what the people around it do.

So before evaluating children, adults must express their own thoughts, words, and deeds in accordance with truth.

If you wish for children to be happy, you must not send out thoughts, words, and deeds that go against truth in front of them.

The health of the body and the soundness of the heart both come about through the use of consciousness. So if adults take the lead and show the divine thoughts, words, and deeds that ought to be, children absorb them as natural recognition and can make use of them in their own lives.

Adults whose hearts are full of their own concerns are sometimes shown their own way of being by children, as if in a mirror, and are guided in such a way that, like it or not, they have to look back on how they are, aren’t they?

In truth, if you could correct yourself of your own accord, without having your Higher Self guide you in that way, you would have no bad influence on children, and adults and children alike could walk straight along a happy path. So it’s good to always look back on how you are, and bring the casual thoughts, words, and deeds you have been unconsciously misusing into line with the resonance of divinity.